God created sex (Genesis 1:28). Sex is God’s idea, not man’s idea. It is such a beautiful expression of love and given that only God could have thought of it. Men and women were designed as sexual beings. Every baby is born as a sexual creature with the potential to have a sexual relationship as an adult. God is negative only about the misuse of sex, because it harms the people He created to have a fulfilling relationship with the opposite sex.
The main reason is that unity is in God’s nature. The sexual union of marriage is used in the Bible to describe the intimacy between Christ and the church. Christ is the bridegroom and the church is the bride. This shows how God values sex. It is a symbol of His oneness with His beloved humanity, who have been created in His image and redeemed through His love.
Genesis 1:31 says: “God saw all that He had made, and it was very good.” God created man and woman and their sexual nature. So He said that sex is “very good.” Those who have studied the human body say that the most pleasurable physical experience in life is sexual climax. It can hardly be compared with anything else. Yet, today, the misuse of sex has become one of the worst enemies of man. It is the cause of broken homes, illegitimate children, child pornography, and billions of dollars’ worth of government social programmes. What God designed to be a high and good pleasure has become a base element of destruction. We must regain an understanding of God’s good purposes for sexuality.
God designed sex within marriage for these reasons:
To seal a blood covenant between two humans
To allow sex to be enjoyed to its maximum potential without repercussions.
After God created male and female (Genesis 1:27), He blessed them and said: “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it (Genesis1:28). There is only one way to do this, have sex.
(Genesis 2: 24): The Bible says: “A man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and they will become one flesh.”) Sexual intercourse constitutes making yourself “one flesh” with another person. This term refers to a physical or sexual covenant. Medical science has discovered that the little layer of skin covering the female’s vagina has high concentration of blood vessels. The only thing that comes out from that layer of skin, when it is broken first by a man’s penis, is blood. Let us look at the significance of this fact. The strongest form of covenant in the Bible is the blood covenant, and God has designed sexual experience as a type of blood covenant. That is why sex must be engaged in only in the context of marriage- a solemn, lifelong commitment between two people before God. That is also why there are such serious warning in scriptures against having sex with just anybody. The scripture says that if you have sex with a prostitute, you have joined yourself to her in a covenant. Even after you have paid her the money and gone, you still remain with her in some sense-and she with you. (1st Corinthians 6:16).
To allow sex to be enjoyed to its fullest without repercussions
In Deuteronomy 24:5, God says: “If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.”
Imagine, God wanted young married couples to enjoy sex so much that He issued a decree to ensure that it was provided for. God promoted sex. Note that it doesn’t say the husband is to bring happiness to himself, but to his wife. Lust focuses on itself, but true love focuses on the other person. God was saying to the husband, “your desire in marriage should be to make your wife happy.” Now, when you make your wife happy, guess who wins? You both do. When you give, you receive.
God established marriage so the sexual relationship can be full of pleasure-no remorse. God is not against sex. He is against the violation of the sexual boundaries. God’s laws are for our protection, not our restriction. His boundaries are for our preservation, not our irritation. We think God doesn’t want us to have any fun. In reality He is trying to protect us whenever we break a law or violate a principle of God we invite spiritual death and suffering.
The primary boundary is the marriage covenant. (1st Corinthians 6:13) says the body is not meant for sexual immorality. This is one of God’s sexual laws which He gives us for our good.
Some negative happens to a man he is sexually immoral. A man may feel guilty after such a sexual experience, whether he admits or not. Men who participate in immorality may even begin to hate their sexual partners, not wanting anything to do with them any longer. What has happened? They feel bad. 1st Corinthians 6:13 says “the body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord. And the Lord is meant for the body.” The Lord made the body for Himself. Bible says that our body is the temple of God. That means the Holy Spirit resides in our body.
1 Corinthians 6:18 “ All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.”
Love is the desire to please another, the total giving of oneself to another, not the taking of something. Sex is a physical sign of a spiritual act-the giving of oneself to another. Marital love is the binding of one’s spouse to another. Sex cannot produce love. Otherwise prostitutes would feel more love. Yet prostitutes have the highest rate of suicide. Sex was given by God to help express love, not to create it. Anyone who gets married for sexual reasons alone has already paved the way to failure, because sexual desire fluctuates. Sexual experience can be a model of Christ’s love for the Church, if we follow God’s original plan for sexuality. The highest witness for Christ that you can give is not preaching but loving your wife as Christ loved the church.
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