Considering the recent happenings in the police service, if there is somebody that has inspired and elevated my spirits, it is my wife Mrs. Abigail Blay Kwofie. We dated for 4 years and got married in February this year. Though she is the shy type and speaks few words, she is proud that she is married to a police officer. She keeps my hopes alive and believes in me as a police officer.
In these times where controversies have bedevilled the police service as a result of some police officers involvement in heinous crimes, every police officer who has a living conscience shrinks in the uniform and his or her confidence level drops below the ebb but those who have inspirational spouses and family members will drive through crisis safely without a hitch. The most recent one is the Donkorkrom robbery incident involving two police officers.
This is the time the police are insulted and humiliated just because some few police officers have been involved in scandals but not the whole police service. Ghanaians insult the police their wives, children, parents and generation yet to be born. A lot of police families are put into total disrepute and in some cases it sparks conflicts among spouses.
Recently I came home from the office very worried. Though she is not feeling well, she tried to spark a conversation but I didn’t respond. Good wives are the best mood detectors so she quickly got down from the bed and came to sit by me in chair. She placed her hands around my neck and said ” I know you are worried and sometimes wants to leave the police service but that is where I disagree with you as my husband. With my few years with you, I have known you to be the stronger type to the extent that I sometimes ask myself weather you have emotions? The police service though much is expected from you people but the institution itself is a human institutions with flaws.
I never liked the police and to think of marrying one until I met you. You have changed my perception about the police completely and how I wish your colleagues out there are doing the same thing to clear some wrongful perceptions people have about you people? Today I measure every police officer based on your standards though I get disappointed at times but it’s normal. When some of these things happen, I learn another lesson that my husband is very different from them all so whatever that happens I learn from it. My prayers are that since we are human beings with fallible natures, I pray that you don’t involve yourself in some of these things to bring shame and reproach to me and even that I will still love you and your work since I am married to a human but not an angel.
My love increases for you when you sometimes return from accident scenes whereby your uniforms are stained with blood and I have to wash them with hard detergents. I some fear that you will pick infections but somehow you have survived them. Though you get worried and would want to stop that at times, I see service and dedication to humanity in you and that inspires me that I should also play my part for humanity.
I sometimes look at how you handle families of deceased people who died in accident and how you console them make me feel that the love of a policeman is what every woman deserves though it is widely speculated that police officers like women. Everyday people throng to our house and come to seek some assistance or advice from you and that makes proud. We sometimes feel shy to allow them entry into our packed single room but you would quickly let me rearrange the room for them to come in to sit down. I also feel proud serving them with water. I think we are doing our best though it appears no one is appreciating it but trust me eyes are watching. You will be rewarded someday.
I remember that night when we were doing the “thing” and your phone kept ringing until you picked it only to be told that armed robbers have blocked the road somewhere at Assikuma. You quickly dressed and left. For the first time I was angry and questioned your choice of career. I was also scared that you might not come back but you know what? I understood it very well the day I was coming to you at Peki and armed robbers attacked us at Prestea area.
The first thing that came into my mind was where is my husband the police officer? When the armed robbers left, you were the first person I called not as my husband but the nearest police officer though you were far away in the Volta Region. My experience that day made me loved you more. The way the armed robbers beat us, took our monies and other valuables and how they shot some people made me to understand that I am married to a man whom some people may need him at times more than how I need him. I will never forget that robbery experience and I have never questioned why you chose to be a police.
I tell the few friends that I have a lot about you. I tell them how disciplined and strict you are. You are so strict to some extent that you sometimes forget I am your wife but I understand. After discussing our husbands, you seems to be the best though people have shrouded perception about the police. I tell them how fearless and daring you are and your understanding of issues.
You can sometimes become the “no nonsense” type after you have issued several warnings. At times too you become too difficult to be read and be understood but I guess it’s all part of the police training that you went. My love and my life with you is adventure full of new discoveries everyday so why are you allowing few miscreants in the police service to distract you? If truly there is another life after here, I will love to have you again and wish you to be a police officer. I feel very useful marrying a policeman. Be the best police officer I know my dear husband. I love you she said.
Since then my commitment, dedication and the love I have for my job renewed. My wife has reminded me of the sacred oath I took some 7 years ago at Koforidua police training school to protect the good people of Ghana. She reminded me about the fact that I didn’t know her that time, I took the oath to protect all manner of persons including her. My confidence level almost sunk but my wife has restored it. I have regained my lost pride.
Time to start afresh and renew our commitments. We shall not give up on mother. God bless the good police officer.